As I wrote in the 10 true, fun, facts about me, before having the self confidence to perform in front of a public without problems I had quite a few unhappy moments due to stage fright.
Well, okay, not that now performing in public is the easiest thing in my life… I do still have that excitement/tension before going on stage but I think this is normal and part of the whole “on stage” experience!
Anyway, overtaking that fear, not only improved my performances but also my way of approaching any kind of personal challenge: school exams, public presentations, interviews…
Why? Hear are a few reasons:
SOMETIMES YOU WIN, SOMETIMES YOU LEARN
Especailly during singing competitions, but not only, also during gigs or plays, it has happend that things went wrong. Sometimes totally wrong, like that time when I COMPLEATELY mistaken the tone of a song (yep, it happened…). Other times, not that much, for example when I forgot the lyrics of a song but remember the rythm so I just sang random words which sound fine but didn’t have actually sense (this is possible particularly when you do not have an english speaking audience 😉 ).
In both scenarios, the feeling you have when the unhappy event is happening is TOTAL PANIC: you realise something wrong is going on + it’s not a rehearsal + everyone is looking at you. What a trio.
But you know what? If we do not do mistakes how can we ever improve ourselves and lear? And this can be generalize to anything, yes! By mistaking we are able to develop a new trick that makes us feel more confident for next time. In the first case, for example, after that time I knew that for that tricky song, before starting, I first needed to hear the key note. By doing this for a few performances, after 2/3 times I didn’t need this little help anymore and was able to sing the song with no problems!
IF I DID THAT, THIS DEFINITELY WON’T SCARE ME!
Performing on stage, it’s not easy. And of course this can be said for other million things like running a marathon, giving a presentation, writing a book, baking a cake, moving to a new place… imagine something you did, for which you challenged youself, prevailed a fear for it and eventually, had a great satisfaction. You did it! Despite the difficulties, the doubts and fears…you succeed!Right? So why are you hesitating for this other challenge?
This is what I ask myselef every time I face a new effortful situation: “Lisa, you managed to sing in front of a whole theater, to win that singing competition that you would have never believed…are you scared for this 10 minutes oral exam? ”
Well okay, they are not the same things but for both you’ve trained before in order to be prepared and ready to give your best. There’s no reason you couldn’t succeed.
Try it. Take an achievement, a satisfaction and use it as motivation for a new one. Maybe it won’t go as well as you wished but then you’ll know what to change next time! 😉
What about you? Which was one of your biggest fears? and what have you gained from overcoming it?