I believe that through my writings most of you understood that I quite like motivating and supporting people. Surrounding myself with people who are positive and happy makes me feel the same, and I think vice versa. Many friends of mine, as well as people who are meeting me for the first time often ask me “where do you find all this energy and motivation?” Well, as I told you later in this post I believe there are people who are “naturally” more positive than others, and I consider myself lucky to be one of those people. The truth is… this positive energy is not always there.
I have already revealed to you, in this post, that one of my secrets about how I take courage in a scary situation, is to just go for it! I often use the same technique to motivate myself doing something I’m not really sure that I am capable of doing.
What if you have totally lost your motivation and you have to re-start from zero?
Maybe some of you, who never found yourself in this situation, will be thinking “how is this possible?” Well, it is. Maybe due to an important event or an unsuspected occurrence, it might happen.
I’ll give you my personal issue as an example: as I told you before (here 😉 ) , until a couple of years ago I was really into singing, I went to music school 2/3 times per week, had a band, attended many singing competitions and festivals. Then high school ended and it was finally time to make my life-dream come true: moving and studying abroad. I won’t annoy you again with all my thoughts and feelings related to that period, it’s not what my point is right not (but if you’re curious to know I explained everything in this post). The aspect I want to focus now is that by making that decision I knew that the singing part of my life would have been moved to the background, since the choice I took was to focus on my uni studies for this 3 years and do my bachelor degree. “But why didn’t you continue singing?” many of you would ask. Well, I do, in my room or when I come back home in Italy, but due to the program I’ve chosen, where I change countries every 9 months, it’s not easy to actually build something like a band or duo, it takes a lot of time.
After this long digression, it is necessary for me to explain the situation. What I find myself facing right now is the feeling that my voice is not the same, less powerful and precise, and missing the control I once had. Of course our voice and vocal chords, as many other parts of our bodies, are muscles, and if not trained can’t give the same results as before. This is exactly my case: I passed from training my voice daily to practically not using it at all. I definitely can’t pretend to have my (what I call) “real voice” back after one day, but yes…it sucks… especially feeling that all your past work is not there anymore.
So what to do?
First, look at the reason why.
The reason why I had this regression on my voice is that I focused on other aspects of my life and am I happy about those. Yes, totally, I do not regret taking this decision.
Secondly, is it an irreparable thing that I am unhappy about?
No, it’s about training and taking it slowly. I’m sure doing a schedule with exercises would definitely help, and like everything in life, when you start improving you get more motivated to continue.
Finally, would this help me feeling better and regain self-confidence?
Yes, indeed! Not that I pretend to have the lifestyle I had before, but just by re-gaining the voice agility that I had would definitely make me more confident.
So, what are you waiting for?
Okay, I have to admit that I felt quite stupid writing the questions and answers myself, but I just thought that someone else out there, maybe the person reading this, or maybe the friend/son/aunt of the person reading this, is feeling the same as I am. It could help knowing that you’re not alone, and that maybe the beauty of not being motivated anymore is actually finding a new way to be motivated again.
What about you, did you ever find yourself in this situation? Which have been your techniques to get back on track and feeling self confident again? I would love to hear from you!
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