It’s been two and a half years now that I am an expat. The questions you’ve been ask by other people about this experience are always many, who is curious to know about the difference you encounter between your home country and the one you’re living in, who wants to know the bureaucratic details, who is worried about the food you find in the country you’re living at the moment is the same quality as the one at home… the variety of questions that I’ve been asked are so many and so different that I could write a book 😀
But there’s one question that each time someone puts me in front of it, especially now that I’m nearly graduating at Uni so a “cycle” is ending, which I feel I don’t really have an exact answer, or better, my answer is very vast to explain.
THE question: “But don’t you want to go home?”
There are many reasons why this question doesn’t have a precise answer, let’s start with the NO points:
– I think I’m at an age where I can totally take advantage of all the opportunities I have in front of me and until now, living abroad has taught me so many things about life, people and myself that probably I won’t have got at this age if I would have lived at home.
– Unfortunately my country at the moment can’t give me the same working opportunities as abroad [if you didn’t know, in the last few years, inItaly there’s a high rate of youth unemployability…], so after living for three years around Europe, having invest a lot of time, effort (and money) on it, would it have sense to go back to Italy which would now probably mean going back to stay at my parents house?
– The mentality people have here is totally different: more open-minded, the interest to new ideas and creativity is way more shown than back at home (Obviously, I’m just talking in general and this is just MY impression 🙂 ).
On the other hand, the YES points are:
– Of course I love my country and would love going back, I mean, in the end Italy is my home and who doesn’t stay well at home?
– After all this travelling I think one day I’ll want to settle, Italy could be an option but, who knows what will happen by the time that I’ll be settling? 🙂
To sum up, I believe my short version answer to this question is “Maybe, but not now” (Well, okay never say never, maybe next year by chance I’ll find a job in Italy, but for now I don’t really feel the need to go back) 😀
I know this is hard to understand, especially for those people who never had the opportunity (or will) to live an experience abroad, but I swear it’s not because I don’t like my home country, I never left with the idea “I’ll never come back” but with a thought like “I’m going to create myself a future, see you later.” 🙂
The structure of this post is quite weird, different from usual, but I think this is the best way to explain everything well… I hope you got my point and that no one took it in a bad way! 🙂
What about you? Have you ever been asked the same question? Which was your answer? I’d love to hear your experience!