A couple of days ago I met a fellow expat. A girl who left her home country and moved to London to find a job.
We were sharing each other’s experiences and it immediately came out that she’s hating it here. She doesn’t like the house where she’s living, she doesn’t go along well with her housemates, her boss is very annoying and living in London is not like she expected it to be. As a positive-thinking person I tried to help her, I started to list a couple of things she didn’t mention hoping that on that side things were actually going well but nothing, she always managed to find something negative connected to it.
I really wanted to help her, really. I know how it is, not feeling well in a place and being hitted by negativity. But after a while I was talking to her, I understood, it wasn’t really about the house, the city or the job but her total approach to new things that was filled by negative vibes.
I think everyone here can agree that ALL OF US have felt that feeling of seeing everything in a negative way, it’s so normal and..human! But, at the same time, I think we’ll all recognize that holding this negativity doesn’t help and actually it can make things worse.
It’s challenging changing, it’s challenging taking decisions, it really is. From small ones like deciding to go to the gym every day to more important ones like deciding to move to another country. And despite all the good energy and effort you’ll put on it it’s totally normal to realise that actually, it’s not all rainbow and unicorns.
But you know what?
(and I know that here not everyone will agree but….)
IT UP TO YOU. It’s up to you to make it the best experience/day/decision ever or just a “thing that I tried”. And yes, circumstances can be different from what you expected, you may not find what you thought but it’s up to you to decide how to deal with it.
And bare in mind, this doesn’t mean that you’ll never make mistakes (where would the fun be then? :D) But everything you’ll do will be worth it, worth it to learn something new, to improve, to discover, to grow.
And if you’re still there thinking “Well, yeah, okay but what if I’m really struggling with the situation I’m in and can’t really find a way..?”
I’m sure this is not the first time you’re facing a difficult moment, right? How did you deal with that? How did you feel? I call it “Stairs Moment” (and I talked about more it here 😉 ), and that moment is my savior, when I’m lost, scared or simply not positive about the outcome of a situation.
How special is it realising this? How special is it realising that you have all the power to turn an experience into the best ever? Looking back and thinking “I could have never thought it would have been this good.”
It’s up to you.
It’s up to you to see the beauty of everyday things.
How about you, can you relate to this words? What was a situation in which you saw everything negatively but then managed to lift yourself up again? I’d love to hear from you! 🙂